A Poem To Help People Understand ADHD

This poem says it all… ADHD
Take my hand and come with me
I want to teach you about ADHD
I need you to know, I want to explain,
I have a very different brain
Sights sounds and thoughts collide
What to do first? I can’t decide
Please understand I’m not to blame
I just can’t process things the same
Take my hand and come with me
let me show you about ADHD
I try to behave, I want to be good
But I sometimes forget to do as I should
Walk with me and wear my shoes
You’ll see its not the way I’d choose
I do know what I’m supposed to do
But my brain is slow getting the message through
Take my hand and talk with me
I want to tell you about ADHD
I rarely think before I talk
I often run when I should walk
It’s hard to get my school work done
My thoughts are outside having fun
I never know just where to start
I think with my feelings and see with my heart
Take my hand and stand by me
I need you to know about ADHD
It’s hard to explain but I want you to know
I can’t help letting my feelings show
Sometimes I’m angry, jealous or sad
I feel overwhelmed, frustrated and mad
I can’t concentrate and I loose all my stuff
I try really hard but it’s never enough
Take my hand and learn with me
We need to know more about ADHD
I worry a lot about getting things wrong
everything I do takes twice as long
everyday is exhausting for me
Looking through the fog of ADHD
I’m often so misunderstood
I would change in a heartbeat if I could
Take my hand and listen to me
I want to share a secret about ADHD
I want you to know there is more to me
I’m not defined by it you see
I’m sensitive, kind and lots of fun
I’m blamed for things I haven’t done
I’m the loyalist friend you’ll ever know
I just need a chance to let it show
Take my hand and look at me
Just forget about the ADHD
I have real feelings just like you
The love in my heart is just as true
I may have a brain that can never rest
But please understand I’m trying my best
I want you to know, I need you to see
I’m more than the label, I am still me!!!!
By: Andrea Chesterman Smith

Inspiration, Mindfulness, Self Care, Stay Positive and Stay Healthy, Thankful

An Exercise in Self-Compassion

An Exercise in Self-Compassion

Find a comfortable position in which you are centered and alert. For example, if you’re seated in a chair, you could lean slightly forward, straighten your back, drop your shoulders, and press your feet gently onto the floor.

Now bring to mind a reality gap you are struggling with. Take a few moments to reflect on the nature of this gap and how it is affecting you, and let your difficult thoughts and feelings arise. 1. Be Present Pause. That’s all you need do: just pause. Pause for a few seconds and notice what your mind is telling you. Notice its choice of words and the speed and volume of its speech. Be curious: Is this story old and familiar, or something new? What time zones is your mind taking you into: the past, present, or future? What judgments is it making? What labels is it using? Don’t try to debate with your mind or silence it; you’ll only stir it up. Simply notice the story it’s telling you.

And notice, with curiosity, all the different emotions that arise. What do you discover? Guilt, sadness, anger, fear, or embarrassment? Resentment, despair, anguish, rage, or anxiety? Name these emotions as they arise: “Here’s fear” or “Here’s sadness.” Pay attention, like a curious child, to what is going on inside your body. Where are you feeling these emotions the most? What are the sizes, shapes, and temperatures of these feelings? How many layers do they have? How many different types of sensation can you find within them? 2. Open Up Now slowly and deeply breathe into the pain. Do so with an attitude of kindness. Infuse this breath with caring and contribution; see it as an act of comfort and support.

Imagine your breath flowing into it and around your pain. Imagine that a vast space magically opens up inside you, making plenty of room for all those feelings. No matter how painful they are, do not fight with them. Offer peace to your feelings rather than hostility. Let them be as they are and give them plenty of space rather than push them away.

And if you notice any resistance in your body—tightening, contraction, or tension—breathe into that too. Make room for it. Contribute peace and space to all that arises: your thoughts, your feelings, and your resistance. 3. Hold Kindly Now choose one of your hands. Imagine this is the hand of someone very kind and caring.

Place this hand, slowly and gently, on whichever part of your body hurts the most. Perhaps you feel the pain more in your chest, or perhaps in your head, neck, or stomach? Wherever it is most intense, lay your hand there. (And if you’ve gone numb or you can’t locate any particular place, then simply rest your hand on the center of your chest.) Let it rest there, lightly and gently, either on your skin or your clothes. Feel the warmth flowing from your palm to your body. Imagine your body softening around the pain, loosening up, softening up, and making space. Hold this pain gently. Hold it as if it is a crying baby, a whimpering puppy, or a fragile work of art. Infuse this gentle action with caring and warmth, as if you are reaching out to someone you care about. Let the kindness flow from your fingers. Now, use both of your hands. Place one of them upon your chest and the other upon your stomach, and let them gently rest there. Hold yourself kindly and gently, connecting with yourself, caring for yourself, and contributing comfort and support.

4. Speak Kindly

Now say something caring to yourself, to express concern or affection. You might silently say a word like “gentle” or “kindness” to remind yourself of your intention. You might say, “This really hurts” or “This is hard.” You might say, “I know this hurts, but I can do this.” You might even repeat a quote, proverb, or saying, as long as it does not make light of your pain. If you’ve failed or made a mistake, then you might like to remind yourself, “Yes, I’m human. Like everybody else on the planet, I fail and I make mistakes.” You might acknowledge that this is part of being human; remind yourself, kindly and gently, that this is what all humans feel when they face a reality gap. This pain tells you something very important: that you’re alive, that you have a heart, that you care, and that there’s a gap between what you want and what you’ve got. And this is what all humans feel under such circumstances. It’s unpleasant. It hurts. And you don’t want it. And this is something you have in common with every other human being on the planet.

Stay Strong

The Storm

. . . once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about. —Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore


ADHD Struggles


• Considering consequences before acting on a thought • Setting goals and prioritizing • Keeping a goal in mind • Sequencing out steps toward a goal • Directing attention to the task at hand • Creating and sticking to timelines • Keeping track of time• Staying focused • Keeping thoughts at bay • Not blurting out feelings